2018 Family Moto

35 They were desirous to be baptized as a witness and a testimony that they were willing to serve God with all their hearts; Mosiah 21:35

"Make sure they remember joy yesterday, experience joy today, and anticipate joy tomorrow."

Motherhood Mission Statement

To provide a loving environment that is centered around God and His commandments while effectively teaching my children to love, honor, and respect all Men no matter the race, creed, or background.

Click on Nolen's name to hear our amazing journey through autism.

Thursday, December 29, 2011

A video or two...

2012 is on its way...

I figured I would post the most random pictures of our Christmas Holiday.  We had an amazing time with my sister, Kendra and her husband Micheal.  We really didn't do much except try and sleep then play with toys.  The boys loved every minute of it.
A job opening has come up in Phoenix.  Our goal was always to return to Phoenix and be near family; however, 3 1/2 years has changed my opinion of Albuquerque.  I thought I would leave this place and never look back.  Now I am finding it hard to leave.  I haven't made a lot of friends, but the friends I have made have changed my life.  They have seen me grow up.  It is true what they say, Albuquerque grows on a person.  I have so many opportunities here and so does Stephen. But do the boys?  Should we stay just for us and not worry too much about what childhood we give the boys?
If we move back to Phoenix, will we be disappointed?  Everyone and everything has changed.  Will they have time for us?  Will our friends and family make time for us, or will be be doing the same things we do here?  I guess I am asking if it is worth it?  We want to be near family but so much has changed it seems as if we are better off here.  Every time we visit Phoenix, our friends say they will visit but they never do.  Is that a sign of how things will be if we move back?  I just don't know.  What life is better?  Is it better here or there? 

Ultimately, I will leave this question up to the Lord.  It is in his hands.

Monday, December 26, 2011


I LOVE having two boys!  It is so much fun.  They are the best of friends and the worst of enemies.  They are so precious.  Here is just a snippet of our lives.

BTW, I just got the Internet working on my computer again, so I can finally post pictures again!


We had the most wonderful, amazing, peaceful Christmas.  I feel truly blessed.  I love my boys and I love my husband.  We opened one present on Christmas eve along with our Christmas Jammie's.  I tried to capture a family photo; however, the boys were not feelin' it. 
Christmas morning, Kendra and her husband Micheal drove in after 18 hours straight from Tennessee.  We let them sleep for a bit, then woke them up for opening many, many packages of cars and lots of yummy food including home made Cinnamon rolls.  We made a Delicious Christmas Dinner then I took a few photos of Kendra and Micheal, then drove Micheal to the airport so he could be with his family for Christmas, THEN went and did a show for Camelot. 
Just a wonderful day to remember the savior and his sacrifice for us.  Edward picked about 50 of his toys to give away this year and we tried to teach the boys about the birth of our savior. 

Merry Christmas to all!

Sunday, December 18, 2011


Have you ever run into someone in your life who seeks to destroy your confidence? I have to admit, those type of people are usually few and far between so when I come across them it is shocking and emotionally damaging. Camelot opened on Friday and, in my opinion, was amazing. We sang well, we danced well, and overall put on a great 3 hour show. It was so much fun. I was home by midnight but was on such a high I couldn't fall asleep. Yesterday, as I was finishing putting on my nymph make-up (extremely extensive and glittery) a fellow cast mate said something about my singing that cut deep. I couldn't help cry. I was shocked, sad, and angry. This was moments before I was supposed to walk on stage and sing the same song again. There are moments in our lives that humble us. I was humbled. I can't even begin to tell you how hard I have worked on my voice. Singing is my passion, my life, and I love to share it. Isn't it interesting how one statement can kill all that hard work in a matter of seconds? I second guessed myself through out last nights performance as if I had never practiced the song. It doesn't matter what she said, however, she taught me a big lesson. "think before you speak". Yes, I usually do not say mean things to others but I sometimes don't pay attention to every word that is coming out of my mouth. I will be better. I will practice harder and I will learn to take the negative with the positive. Sometimes I forget that some people may not like me... Ha ha, as if I believe every person I come across likes me. If you live in Albuquerque, come and see the show. It is worth all 3 hours you will spend in the theater. Enjoy your Sunday and have a merry Christmas.

Monday, December 12, 2011

Standing your Ground and Tantrums

A post for a page in my parenting book.

Sometimes extreme challenges arise and we can choose to stand up and face our challenges or shrink down and let them wash over us like the relentless ocean waves.  I have been choosing the ocean waves with Edward for a while now because I didn't want to deal with a battle three times a day.  Yeah, I talking about the food battle.  I, somehow, became "that Mom" who makes three different meals at each mealtime through out the day.  Was that easier than dealing with a tantrum?  I told myself, yes.

Today, I had enough.  I went to sleep around 1:30 AM after a long night at rehearsal and then helped spike the set.  Let's just say, this wasn't the best day to pick to battle my two year.  In any case, like I said, I had enough.  Edward said he was hungry.  I dutifully went to the kitchen and cooked him a scrambled egg.  Edward promptly came to the kitchen and told me "NO EGG!"  I asked him what he wanted to eat.  He replied a resounding "NO" to everything I offered.  I thought to myself, "I have given him so many choices, yet he chooses to be unhappy and not eat." I decided, in my sleepy state, to just put the egg on the table and tell him that was his breakfast.

Let the tantrums begin!  Edward even hit me twice so he had to spend some time in time-out then apologize before he could join us back at the table.  I ignored Edward for about 20 minutes while I fed Nolen and ate my own delicious breakfast.  The crying continued and was followed by, "I too sad to eat."  I was really about to give in, then I had an amazing idea.  I stayed calm (surprising, I know) and told Nolen he could have a Popsicle for eating all of his breakfast. 

Oh, the crying got louder!  "I want Popsicle!"  I said, calmly, "You may have a Popsicle once you eat all of your breakfast."  Something changed in Edward.  He jumped up on his chair and ate EVERY LAST BITE!  I really wanted to force the feed Edward at this point but somehow managed to stay calm.   In the end he didn't even want a Popsicle, he was just hungry. 

I try to pick my battles carefully.  I pick battles I know I can win but is that really fair?  I am scared of losing...to a two year old!  I have attempted potty training and haven't had a single success.  Not one.  I know we are all afraid of failure but I am pretty sure I would rather have a successful man leave my house than a sad little boy who can't use the potty nor eat anything that is prepared for him. 

One small step in the right direction.  We will see if lunch goes any better...

Monday, December 5, 2011

Snow day!

The first snow of the season is always beautiful, then you realize this stuff is going to be coming and going quite a bit over the next few months; however, we still love to taste and touch the snow when we haven't seen it for a while.  I took the boys outside to play in it but Edward didn't want to wear gloves and hat, so he went back inside almost as fast as he ran to go outside.  Those that live in Arizona, be jealous... OK, don't be jealous, just come and visit us.
For your viewing pleasure, a video of Nolen playing ball.  Also, as I am writing this more snow is falling, leaving us with more than 2-3 inches of snow.  I even shoveled the driveway!

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Christ {mas}

I am having a hard time talking to Edward about Santa.  I don't want to tell Edward about Santa and I don't want Christmas to turn in to a time of year when all he talks about are things he is going to receive.  How can I avoid this? 
My thought is to tell him now that Santa isn't real, but Jesus is real and in order to get gifts we must give something.  Is this mean?  Is that terrible of me to cut Santa completely out?  So many people have completely cut Christ out of Christmas.  I just don't want my sons to be a part of the X-MAS group.  Any thoughts?  What do other parents do?
I grew up with Santa and I turned out OK, but sometimes I feel like the generations that are coming up live in a society of me, ME, me.  I just want to avoid that as much as possible.  Anyhow, so probably no Santa here at the Barnes home.

Friday, November 25, 2011

Giving Thanks

This year I am extremely grateful for Family.  I am truly blessed to be surrounded by wonderful people who love me and support me no matter what silly things I say or do.  My parents drove 7 hours just to spend Thanksgiving with us because I was too chicken to drive to Arizona by myself (with two boys).  I am so thankful for their support, kindness, and selflessness.  They are one of a kind parents who have given me more than I will ever be able to repay. 

I love them so much.

Thursday, November 17, 2011