2018 Family Moto

35 They were desirous to be baptized as a witness and a testimony that they were willing to serve God with all their hearts; Mosiah 21:35

"Make sure they remember joy yesterday, experience joy today, and anticipate joy tomorrow."

Motherhood Mission Statement

To provide a loving environment that is centered around God and His commandments while effectively teaching my children to love, honor, and respect all Men no matter the race, creed, or background.

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Sunday, November 24, 2013

Snow, snow, snow

I had quite the busy day planned for today.  Then is snowed.  So far, two of the three things I have planned have been cancelled.  I am relieved because, here at the Barnes home, we are all super sick.  I hate being sick.  At least the boys had a chance to play outside in the freezing snow.

Sunday, November 17, 2013

Friday, November 15, 2013

He's 3

Today, I am filled with mixed emotions.  Sometimes in our lives we are faced with trials we could never have comprehended.  I am so grateful for my sweet, little Nolen.  This past year of his life has been the most challenging for me.  I have simultaneously lost the boy I thought he was and gained a little man who is eager to learn and grow.  He comes with his own rule book.  He does everything is own way.  There is absolutely no wiggle room.  If he is upset, then we are all upset.  Nolen has found a way to be the very center of attention.  I joke, maybe that was his plan all along. 
 Nolen is mostly potty trained and has been in undies for the last few weeks.  I am so proud of him. He faces challenges with gusto.  He is eager to learn; alas, not eager for change.  I have to admit, I don't like change either. 
Nolen loves Thomas the train.  He loves to watch Thomas on TV and play with Thomas all day long.  Nolen also loves Lightening McQueen.  He loves to jump.  Today, we took him to ABQ Jump for his birthday and he had a blast.  We had cupcakes, which are his favorite, and opened presents as a family.  We spent the whole day as a family, and to tell the truth, I think that is what we needed at this moment in time.  We are family.
Nolen is almost reading.  He can identify every letter and the sound they make.  He can recite many books, word for word!  He can add and is starting to subtract.  He can grasp abstract concepts beyond what I believe he is capable.  Nolen is extremely intelligent. 
Nolen loves to play with Edward.  He also loves to fight with Edward.  They play all day together and miss each other when one is away.  Nolen is loving.  He loves to give kisses and will hug just about anyone. 
Nolen, FINALLY, sleeps through the night.  After all the long nights, this is something I will NEVER take for granted.  I am so relieved that he can sleep.  Nolen has still never eaten meat.  I am unsure if this will change.  He wont even touch it.  He is still the pickiest eater I have ever met.  He does love French fries. 
Today, I am celebrating.  Nolen can talk.  This time last year, he had stopped talking altogether.  Nolen can communicate.  Nolen can laugh.  He understands jokes.  Nolen is kind hearted.  He can learn.  I know how to teach him.  I know how to move forward.  The confusion I felt last year has been lifted, the tiniest bit.  I do not know what his future will be, (not that I ever did), but I do know there is hope. 
Happy 3rd Birthday, Nolen.  I love you. 


Monday, November 11, 2013

Sometimes life gives you lemons...

... and so you make lemonade.  Sometimes, life gives you even more lemons and the kids are sick of drinking lemonade.  In my case, I sometimes, can not believe the trials the Lord is willing to hand a family.  It can be difficult and challenging.  I just wonder, why? A lot. 
I have a confession.  I tried changing my attitude about Albuquerque.  I tried loving it.  I tried seeing the positive.  This town can be a hard place to live.  Please, family, move here.   And, God, if your listening... slow down the trials for a minute, please. 

Saturday, November 9, 2013

Potty Trained!!

Yes, you read that right! My two year old who has autism is potty trained! I am so happy!  I have heard such terrible horror stories about potty training a child with autism.  AND it was hard.  REALLY HARD!  He cried, a lot.  He put up a huge fight; however, he gets it!  He is in underwear all the time now.  I started back in May and have been pushing to get him potty trained before he was 3.  I started potty training Edward a week before he turned 3.  That was a bit too late, in my opinion. So I started WAY earlier with Nolen.  It paid off.  He has been wearing underwear all week and has not had any pee accidents the whole week. Poop was a little more difficult, but he is officially going on the potty for both!!  Here is a little video I shot of him saying he is potty trained!  Also, if your looking for signs of autism, this video clearly shows his autistic tendencies. 
Oh, I just love this little boy and I can not believe he will be 3 on Friday!

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

For Good

"Have I done any good in the world today?"
Lately, the answer has been a resounding, "NO!"
I feel like things in life are constantly going up and down.  Sometimes, I am on top of life and I can get a million things done and be a great mother at the same time.  So many things have happened lately that I feel a bit out of my element.  I fail as a mother, a lot. I am so easily distracted by technology.  I can find any excuse to get on the computer and just browse the internet.  I have tried to get better, but then I fall right back into old habits. 
At any rate, here I am again, trying to be a better person.  Ugh.  If only I was perfect!
In other news, Nolen is nearly potty trained!  He doesn't have #2 figured out yet, but he has figured out #1.  YEAH!  I have talked to a lot of parents that have children with autism.  Most, if not all, say they were not able to potty train their children until they were 4 1/2.  That is the average! I have another child who had a hard time being potty trained and I did NOT want to go through that again. 
I started potty training Nolen in May.  It has taken this long to get to wearing underwear daily. I am so glad I started then.  He is going to get it.  Just one more step and he is there! In the mean time, some underwear are going to be in the garbage.  Oh well.
Hope you are enjoying fall as much as we are here in New Mexico.  It is beautiful!