Let boys be boys

Deep breath.  It's all going to be OK.  A few weeks ago, I took Edward in to see a psychologist.  Is that crazy?  Do I worry too much?  Probably.  After a few visits, a form filled out by Edward's teacher, a form filled out by me, and a form filled out by Stephen; the psychologist thinks Edward has ADHD and wants to put him on medicine.  Can I catch a break?  I opted out of the medicine.  I can't.  I just can't.  He's too little.  

Here's my reasoning and you may not agree (or you may agree).  In this crazy world of sit still, be quiet, don't talk, don't have an opinion, don't say no, and certainly don't be an individual; I think we have put too many labels on people and too many walls up for kids.  They can't think for themselves  They can't act for themselves and heaven forbid they EVER make a mistake.  Ever!  

I am sick of it!  Let boys be boys!  Let kids be kids!  Let them make mistakes while we can guide and mold them rather than pushing medicine on them right away.  Let people make mistakes!  PLEASE!  I make so many mistakes a day.  I am so imperfect it's laughable.  Let the kids have a bad day and let them express their opinion.  I am not about to allow my children to become sheeple!!  I'm not.  I won't allow it.

I do apologize if my son is hard to handle in school.  Wouldn't it be great if every single kid did what you said and you never had to correct them and they just followed every single rule?  Sure, that would make the teacher's lives SO much easier.  But I am of the opinion that teachers are there to teach EVERY SINGLE CHILD!  To help every single child in the classroom.  NOT just the smartest and the easy going child.  Teachers are there to help ALL CHILDREN!  Would my life be easier if my boys agreed to everything I said and just did what I said because I said it?  YES!  But do I want that for them?  NO!  

So, today, I let my boys be boys.  They can not back talk or sass.  They can not be disrespectful.  BUT they can express their opinion and ask "WHY?"  If I stop them from asking, then they will become followers and, frankly, I don't want that.  I have never been, nor will I ever be, a follower.  If you don't want to go where I go, then forge your own path! 

Today, my boys play outside using their creativity.
Today, they are individuals.

A benefit

We spent our Saturday with great friends. 

I am so so grateful for the amazing people we know here in albuqierque. They are so kind and generous. My heart is full. My sweet Nolen is truly loved and I know my Heavenly Father is watching over our family. 

Thank you to all who came and supported us. Thank you to all my friends far away who have supported Nolen and our family. I am filled with love. Thank you. 

Surgery

Today, I went in to have some endometriosis removed. After a failed attempt at starting the I.V. I figured the day could only get better. I woke up feeling terrible and the nurse said, "no endometriosis but we found two staples in your right ovary and bladder and removed them". Crazy! Anyhow, I spent the day in bed drifting in and out of sleep. Hopefully, sans the staples, I will be able to get back to my normal life soon. 

 

Update 1: So things didn't get back to normal as quickly as I had hoped.  I have the worst itchy hives, EVER! I can't move with out wanting to scratch my stomach off!  HA!

Update 2: The hives only got worse.  I went to the doctor on Wednesday and she prescribed Prednisone.  The hives should be gone soon.  Hives are awful.  Awful!

Soccer Saturday!!

Little did I know, last July, that soccer here in Albuquerque is TWO seasons long!  I signed my boys up thinking we would do 8 weeks of fun, fun soccer and be done.  WRONG!  So here we are finishing what we started.  We haven't been as in to it as we were in the fall but we still go, every Saturday.  

Edward still doesn't like it.  He rarely has a chance to kick the ball and he just daydreams in the field as the other kids run after the ball.  Either way, I push him to finish things he starts.  I let him stop gymnastics because he wasn't progressing or learning anything new at all.  It was sad.  I think he really enjoyed it two years ago but because the program doesn't teach any skills he got bored.  The girls his age are competing and doing cartwheels and flips while the boys haven't even done front rolls.  It's sort of pathetic.  I signed him up for swim team at the gym and I hope, I really hope, he will love it.  I hope he will progress and find a sport he can enjoy.  

Nolen, on the other hand, loves soccer Saturday.  He is very competitive.  He wants to always have the ball and make all the goals.  He loves it.  His team only has 5 boys and Edward's team has 7 so the competition is a little less for Nolen.  I also signed Nolen up for the junior swim team at the gym and I really hope he will gain more confidence in the water.  I can not wait for them to open the pool at the gym.  

During Nolen's game, Edward's best friend surprised him with a mini play date!  It was so fun. 

Chop, chop, snip, snip.

Edward decided it was finally time to cut his hair. I love his long locks and I will miss them. He sure is handsome so matter what way he wears his hair.